A Nigerian lady has painfully narrated how she finds it hard to forgive her father, years after losing her mother to domestic violence.
According to her, she grew up with the mindset that ‘marriage is trash’ after watching her father hit her mother severally, which led to her mother developing a brain tumour that k!lled her.
She added that ever since the death of her mother, she has been unable to forgive her father and hasn’t spoken to him in six years.
In her words:
“About my father, I grew up in a broken home basically and I kinda grew up with the fact that getting married is trash because I grew up with a father that is actually a domestic violent person.
“Then, I lost my mum to it. She had a brain tumour from too much hitting. For close to 6 years now I have been in denial about the fact that it didn’t hurt me and I didn’t forgive him for close to four years.
“I noticed that while I was battling with forgiving him I was travelling at work my work wasn’t moving properly. Like I would work and I won’t be able to receive what I work for and I didn’t know that that was what was happening.
“So one of these days I was watching a prayer and there was a prayer that said we had to let go. It has affected my dating life because I stay away from the gender honestly. I think I have a friend somewhere here. She could say it I’m always like I don’t want to talk about them.
“My friends are talking about marriage as I’m like “na una wan marry oh. Me e no dey my top 10 list”. I do that, I still do it. I’m sure they’re watching me live right now and they’re saying thank God she’s talking about it finally.
“I was finally able to forgive him but I have not been able to communicate with him. I haven’t had the courage to pick up my phone and call him, like I’ve not spoken to him in 6 years. I try whenever I call him it rings once he picks up the phone I end the call.”
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